I was speaking to a friend about his intrigue with “patina” on furniture and building materials. Patina is the signs of weathering that give wood, metal and objects character. It’s considered desirable to show that the item isn’t newly manufactured and in fact, has been around for a while.
Of course, my mind went to patina in the human condition. Why isn’t it desirable to look like we’ve been around the block a few times? Why should we all look like fresh-faced newbies?
Maybe it’s capitalism… the encouragement to “get a new model” to drive the economy. We generalize the concept that new must be better. So new people must be better too.
I think most of us feel like new earthsuits would be more serviceable and less demanding that the older models. With new earthsuits comes the reality of cluelessness, and most of us wouldn’t envy that part of the deal, not to mention the trials and tribulations needed to breathe some wisdom into the callow mind.
Here’s my suggestion; aging is just “patina.” It’s a sign that we’ve been there, done that and hopefully have reached a peaceful place of self-acceptance. I plan to wear my patina with pride because I’ve earned it! (Not to say there isn’t some wrinkle crème in my medicine cabinet… I’ll call that “artistic license!”)
It’s taken me a long time to discern the difference between being self-absorbed and self-appreciative. I think I always shied away from embracing the good things about me, feeling a little ashamed and self-indulgent.
It’s time to change that script! Not that I’m perfect, by a long shot…but I can say this about me… “I am a resilient SOB!” I’ve learned over these years that each test, each setback, is an opportunity to self-reflect and find strength I didn’t know I had. I’ve even realized that the “mistakes” were just detours and the scenery was pretty interesting, even if unexpected.
There are so many distractions in this world. People tell wrong-minded stories about who we’re supposed to be. We spend decades trying to be that person, the thin one, the popular one, the lovable one. We give away our power to other poor souls who are scuffling along just as we are. We seek approval ahead of wisdom.
Without self-reflection, making friends with myself and loving this person, we are on an endless quest for the impossible. At some point, I realized I would never be fulfilled unless I embraced my flaws and my talents and worked my way along the Path accepting both.
As a younger person, I could have had the most persuasive teacher along these lines, but there truly is a ripening of Spirit that needs to occur over time. The fruit gets sweeter as it ripens.
Every day I promise to check my familiar face in the mirror will and thank me for staying the course, for recovering from disappointments and heart-break. I will thank me for loving people without judgment. And I will thank me for arriving at the point where I joyfully offer my legacy to whomever is interested.
I will forgive me for being foolish and immature at times. I will forgive me for an undisciplined mind that sometimes strays from the Path of clarity.
These “love songs” will be sung every day. It would be wonderful to expand the solo into a chorus. I’m listening…
With love, Rosanne
Since 2014, Rosanne (Roseanne) Bostonian, PhD, has served as an adjunct faculty member at Berkeley College in Woodland Park, New Jersey. In addition to her work in academia, Dr. Rosanne Bostonian is a certified reiki master teacher who provides energy-based healing to clients.
Each person has a current of universal life energy within them. This energy, often referred to as chi, is connected to important energy centers in the body known as the seven chakras. Chi also is present in an ambient energy field around the body, typically referred to as the aura. Whenever the flows of this energy become obstructed, negative effects can begin to manifest themselves physically in the body.
A reiki practitioner addresses the energy blocks by acting as a channel, directing positive energy from the universe into the individual. By raising the vibration levels and focusing energy work on the affected areas, reiki can help restore the balance of positive energy in the body and alleviate the effects of energy blocks that are inhibiting the flow of chi.
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As a healing professional, Ms. Rosanne (Roseanne) Bostonian, PhD, draws on a variety of wellness methodologies to support each individual patient. Ms. Rosanne Bostonian, PhD, finds that many of her patients respond well to the technique of foot reflexology.
Reflexology operates on the belief that different points on the extremities, including the feet and hands, correspond to the body’s organs and systems. A reflexologist will use these connections to affect internal functioning by applying pressure to specified distal points.
The reflexologist typically refers to a special foot chart that identifies which points affect which organs. By selecting the points likely to address a patient’s concern, the reflexologist helps the body to fall back into its natural balance. Many patients report feeling more relaxed and sleeping better after reflexology treatment.
The reflexology treatment typically lasts between 30 and 60 minutes. The reflexologist typically uses his or her own thumb and finger to press on the specified spot, though some may also incorporate rubber balls or other tools to facilitate results. The process is non-invasive and considered generally safe for most clients, including the very young and the very old.