“Say Yes to the Dress”

Bride dressing for wedding

Okay… I was on vacation and I confess that I indulged in some shows that I’d normally surf through.  I watched a bit of “Say Yes to the Dress.”  This is a program that celebrates the ritual of women gathering to present the betrothed in the most alluring garb on her special day.

Initially, I wanted to say “No to the Show,” because it seemed so vapid and self-indulgent, but my mind went to the origins of the wedding ceremony itself.  Few know that the modern wedding ceremony, white dress, altar and all, had its origins in pagan days.  As a tribute to the gods, a young virgin girl was dressed in white, given by her family in gratitude, placed on the altar and sacrificed.  They had the good sense to drug the poor girl.  Today the bride can be plied with alcohol or Xanax!

 In the Christian interpretation, both bride and groom are sacrificing individuality to oneness, a cleaving to each other.  They are redefining themselves as the foundation of a new family.  One source says that the bride represents the human soul and the groom represents the Holy Spirit.  When they join, the circle is complete and human consciousness become one with the Creator.

In our culture, the notion of sacrifice is dwindling on many fronts, not only in marriage. People seem to be looking to get more than give.  When we have two people in a grab-fest it’s hard to create an atmosphere of gratitude and abundance.  Instead, there is frustration and disappointment.  We’re missing something if the focus is the dress, the party, and no deeper meaning to the union. The solution seems commitment to creating rather than consuming…giving rather than taking.

We are entitled to nothing.  (Shocking to write that and probably to read it.)  We have the consequences of what we have or haven’t created and there is no one else to blame.  In marriage and any relationship, we have a canvass upon which to project loving intentions.  No one is asking for a literal “death” on the altar, but the individual egos have to give way to a larger concept of joining.

Let’s say “Yes” to that!

With love, Rosanne Bostonian


Presence, Not Presents!

holiday celebration

As the holiday season gets into full swing, what is more valuable is “presence,” not presents!

Many of us live like a speedboat skimming across the surface of a lake, unaware that life is unfolding in the depths of that lake.  The demands of life in 2017-2018 accelerate and distract our minds.  We have to slow down and be fully present to derive fulfillment.  The alternative is a list of to-dos that never get to-done!

Wherever you are, be there.  Don’t be a skimmer, a shopper, a material being that, when all is said and done, and the wrapping paper has been torn open and revealed the treasures within, feels duped and disappointed.

Ceremonial occasions are important…the gathering of “tribes” in our lives is part of tradition.  Don’t mistake the ceremonial for the authentic and try to bring as much authentic to the ceremonial as you can.

 Christ’s birth symbolizes a transition in consciousness, another step in the evolution of humankind.  We can celebrate that by being conscious rather than by devolving!

May you invite into your life the blessings of abundance, both material and invisible!

With love,  Rosanne Bostonian

9 things you didn’t know about Myrrh essential oil


There was a time when Myrrh may have been more precious than gold. People have sought after this precious botanical since biblical times for its use as a perfume, incense, spice, and to beautify skin. A gift fit for royalty, travelers carried myrrh across desert and sea to be delivered to kings and queens of old.
Today, people still revere Myrrh essential oil for its rich, earthy aroma and skin-benefiting properties. Myrrh oil is also often used during yoga, meditation, and religious practices to promote feelings of spirituality. There’s plenty “myrrh” to know about Myrrh oil uses and the benefits of Myrrh oil. Become a Myrrh master with these nine fun facts and usage tips.

1.  Origins
Myrrh was extremely valuable in the Middle East and Mediterranean. Today, it’s popular all over the world.

2.  Name
The word “myrrh” comes from the Arabic word “murr,” meaning bitter, because of its sharp taste. In other words, you wouldn’t want to add this oil to your morning smoothie.

3.  Plant
Myrrh essential oil is steam distilled from the red-brown resin of the Commiphora myrrha tree, identifiable by its knotted trunk and white flowers.

4.  Aroma
Its earthy, sweet, and slightly spicy aroma can help promote feelings of spirituality during mindfulness practices like meditation and yoga.

5.  Bath time
In need of a little TLC? A few drops of Myrrh in a warm bath can create a luxurious, spa-like atmosphere. Combine it with Lavender or Lemon, sit back, and breathe in a warm, uplifting aroma.

6.  Hair care
Shampooing your hair might leave it squeaky clean, but it also removes important oils that help hair stay strong. Add a couple drops of Myrrh essential oil to your shampoo to help keep your hair and scalp hydrated.

7.  Skin care
Myrrh is a common ingredient in luxury beauty products, especially products that go on the skin. Just a couple drops of Myrrh essential oil can make even drugstore products feel high-end.

8.  Home and family
There’s nothing like a home filled with a relaxing and uplifting scent after a long day. Diffuse Myrrh essential oil in the evening as you and your loved ones unwind together.

9. Holiday Cheer
Myrrh has long been seen as a symbol of sharing during the holiday season. Fill your home with the essence of the holidays by diffusing Myrrh with Frankincense and Orange.

Happy holidays!

Actively Listening to Yourself

Active listening

More than ever, we are pulled into the area outside of our skin with high levels of stimulation and distraction.  Bombarded with seductive and interesting energy, the more subtle, internal voices are drowned out.

The complex biological being upon which our heads sit has a voice.  Its messages are drowned out by the “louder” stimuli that bombard our eyes, ears, taste buds and noses.

Our body connection, our sense of material being, connects us to every other form.  The fact that molecules came together to form you and me underscores the fact that the very same molecules form everything else.  To ignore our bodies, our inner experience, or to minimize its importance, is to miss the sense of unity of all forms.

So how do we actively listen?  The brain can only process one message at a time.  We can move rapidly among messages, but each impulse is discrete.  This is why slowing down, breathing and some of the currently touted relaxation methods make sense.  When we slow down, we’re making space to listen to ourselves one internal stimulus at a time. Quieting the mind and its mischief is a big part of hearing the body and making friends with yourself.

What does it feel like to occupy your body?  What is it asking for? What is it trying to communicate? When we’re able to have this empathic connection with ourselves, it opens the door for profoundly different relationships with others.

With love,



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Most self-awareness books instruct us to value feedback from others.  Those of us who are insecure may take one comment and agonize over it, magnify it into truth.  A better plan is to identify patterns of feedback.  We usually need objective help not to personalize everyone’s random, sometimes self-serving comments.

Patterns are instructive.  They show us a mirror image of what we’ve created as a ‘self’ in the world.  The good news is that we can recreate, reorganize and reevaluate that image if we have courage.  Make no mistake that looking in the mirror of our lives requires courage and maturity.  The tendency is to project blame onto the mirror and find external distortions to justify what we don’t like in that image.  For lack of that skill, we can numb ourselves and refuse to look too closely.

Just because we don’t acknowledge what’s happening doesn’t mean that it isn’t happening.  With those who are avoidant, by the time what’s happening is acknowledged, it’s late in the game and harder to fix.  Better to sensitize our GPS systems to identify “off course” decisions while it’s early in the journey.

Mindful, conscious self-awareness is the ultimate GPS system.  The corrections can be done just as Garmin does them…”Recalculating” in a non-judgmental, compassionate voice.

From the center of our being, may the gentle, forgiving voice of instruction be the patient teacher and may the guiding hand of Universal Wisdom protect us along the way.

Rosanne Bostonian

DIY Essential Oil Face Mask

cedarwood oil and lemon oil

Want a clean slate for your face? This lemon-infused peeling mask helps even skin tone and texture by removing dead skin. Plus, Lemon essential oil may help reduce the appearance of blemishes!*


  • 2 egg whites
  • 1 teaspoon lemon juice
  • 2 drops Lemon essential oil
  • 1 drop Cedarwood essential oil
  • Directions

In a small bowl, whisk together the egg whites, lemon juice, and essential oils until frothy.
Apply the mask evenly to your face.
Let the mask sit for 15–20 minutes or until it’s dry.
Slowly peel off the face mask.
Wash your face with warm water and apply a light moisturizer.

8 Reasons to Love Clove

8 reasons to love clove

Here’s a great post on clove from YoungLiving

Imagine this: You’re inside, it’s dark out, the fire is on, you have a cup of hot chocolate in your hand, a fuzzy blanket on your lap, and your Diffuser is diffusing a magical and cozy aroma with Clove essential oil. Sounds like a great way to unwind from your day, doesn’t it?

With its spicy, warm scent, Clove essential oil is the perfect companion for celebratory moments at holiday gatherings, and we want to help you enjoy this comforting aroma all season long. Read on for tips on how to make your holidays even more inviting and meaningful, including insightful facts and practical uses. With its unique scent, Clove essential oil has the power to set the perfect tone for any fall or winter day. It will instantly put you in the holiday spirit, ready to enjoy some hot apple cider

  1. The clove flower bud and plant stem are steam distilled to produce Clove essential oil.

2. Clove is a potent essential oil and is used often for topical application such as in massage oils and personal care products. We recommend adding a drop or two to your hand lotion to keep your skin moisturized during the drier winter months.

3. Clove essential oil’s inviting aroma pairs amazingly with other oils such as Cinnamon Bark, Grapefruit, Orange, and Nutmeg.

4. It’s an important ingredient in Young Living’s Thieves® and ImmuPower™.

5. On days when your toes are cold and you can’t seem to shake the chill, draw up a warm bath and add a few drops of Clove for its soothing aroma.

6. Add 3–4 drops to water in a glass spray bottle and use it for a homemade air or linen freshener to ready your bedrooms for holiday guests.

7. Combine it with V-6™ Vegetable Oil Complex and rub it into your neck and back for a rejuvenating massage and uplifting aroma.

8. Combine 2 drops of Clove with 6 drops of Orange and 4 drops of Cinnamon Bark in your diffuser* for a quiet night full of relaxation and gratitude.

Now you are ready to show off during the holiday season with your Clove expertise!
*Check your diffuser’s oil drop count recommendations and change as needed.