The Soul of Vibrational Sweetness

Baby girl and family dog
Baby Girl In Summer Dress Sitting In Field Petting Family Dog

Those of us who treasure animal companions know this; they embody the soul of vibrational sweetness.  This is true if living with humans hasn’t made them crazy!

Since our pets are pure at the outset, the complexities and neurotic confusion of human lives invades their brains like a tsunami.  If we watch them, treasure their energy and allow them to be our teachers, they open up like flowers in the rain.

The horrific videos depicting animal cruelty make me dive for the remote.  Prisoners of human unconsciousness and worse, they abide confused and forlorn, mirrors of our own desolation.

Starving babies are another remote diver for me.  Innocence with nowhere to go is a projection of anything about ourselves we’ve buried to protect.  There it is, exposed as a ragged animal or an abject little human.

From years in the therapist’s chair, I’ve honed a sense of understanding that there is no you, and no me. There is Life living itself as you, me and everything else.  There is only Life, its energy bursting forth in every form.  It’s the stuff religions are made of as they try to understand the source of all things.

Animals and babies remind us of what we can’t tolerate in ourselves, our vulnerability.  Maybe accepting that, opening the heart to that, will free the intention to do no harm

With love,

Rosanne

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7 Tips and Essential Oil Uses for a Balanced Life

1)Treat yourself.

All work and no play is a surefire way to throw off a balanced life. Wherever you’re logging your hours—at home, the office, the gym, or anywhere else—be sure to treat yourself when the work is done! Making time for yourself ensures that you feel cared for, so you can keep sharing your time, energy, and talents with others. Pursue a new hobby just for fun, spend a night binge-watching a show, or take an extra-long, steamy shower! It can be anything, big or small, that helps you refocus and recharge.

YL Tip: Grab a Stress Away™ Roll-On and check out our Treat Yourself—3 Steps to Make Time for Me Time blog post to get started!

Young Living Stress Away

2) Take stock of your life.

When was the last time you thought about what you want and what it takes to get there? Knowing yourself and what makes you feel happy and fulfilled can help balance your life. Unfortunately, the hustle and bustle of daily life makes it almost impossible to passively discover yourself, and you can easily end up somewhere you didn’t intend to go. Balanced people regularly think about the life they want and then prioritize their time and energy to pursue it.

YL Tip: Take some time to breathe and rediscover yourself with help from Magnify Your Purpose™ and our Beginner’s Guide to Meditation post.

Magnify-Your-Purpose

3) Catch some Zzz’s.

People with a balanced life recognize that prioritizing their day takes energy. Sleep deprivation makes it difficult to check off all the tasks on your to-do list and to manage your mood. But when the neighbor’s dog barks all night or your 5-year-old has a recurring nightmare, getting your eight hours can seem impossible. Increase your chances for a restful night’s sleep by practicing healthy sleep habits like having the same bedtime and wake time every day, shying away from screens an hour before bed, and creating a nighttime routine that tells your body it’s time to sleep.

YL Tip: Integrate the calming aroma of Lavender or Peace & Calming™ into your nighttime routine by applying it to the bottoms of feet or diffusing it before bed.

Peace-Calming

4) Think about what you eat and drink.

When your body doesn’t get adequate nutrition, it slows down and becomes inefficient. Practice mindful eating to make the most of each meal and snack. When you focus on getting fruits, veggies, and other whole foods, you ensure that your body is running at peak performance. And remember to stay hydrated! Dehydration can lead to fatigue, dizziness, and other symptoms that can slow down your day.¹

YL Tip: This week, try our Cinnamon-Apple Chips or Homemade Thai Soup instead of take-out or packaged food. And what’s a balanced life without occasionally treating yourself to something indulgent? Try our Dairy-Free Dark Chocolate Peppermint Mousse for a sweet that’s also smart!

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5) Get moving.

Regular exercise benefits nearly every aspect of your life. Among other positives, exercise can improve mood, boost energy, and lead to better sleep,² meaning a happier, healthier, more balanced you. Whether you’re lifting weights, walking the block, or dancing with your friends, do something at least a few times a week to raise your heart rate and your spirits.

YL Tip: Relax after a tough workout with Cool Azul™ Pain Relief Cream. It relieves pain in muscles and joints with a cooling sensation and refreshing aroma.

Cool-Azul

6) Give selfless service.

Offering service and compassion to others can bring a fresh perspective to your life, and the more time you spend caring for others, the more content and happy you feel. It could be something as simple as a visit to a lonely neighbor or a kind note to a struggling friend. Whatever it is, do something to get out of your head and brighten someone else’s day!

YL Tip: Share Gratitude™ with someone you feel especially thankful for. Drop it off with a thank you letter that tells how special he or she is to you.

Gratitude

7) Let things go.

Free up your energy by letting go of things you can’t control. Part of life is allowing some situations to be what they are and not trying to force them to become something else. Instead of fixating on something you can’t change, use your power in places where you have control.

YL Tip: Apply or diffuse Surrender™ or Acceptance™ and spend some time letting go. Consciously acknowledging and releasing your feelings can help you redirect your energy.

For more ideas on living a balanced life, check out our Upgrade Your Morning Routine in 3 Easy Steps and Rest Your Mindset: Handling the Hustle blog posts.

Surrender

When no one is watching…

choose your life

 I’m teaching a course (Human Relations) in which a central theme is what motivates us.  Kids are taught (if they’re lucky) by parents who hold values and reward or punish their kids accordingly.  If we mature, we learn to internalize our values, and we don’t need external responses to validate them.

Are we performing for an audience over a lifetime?  With empathy, we are concerned about our effects on others, but being a people pleaser places our fate in the hands of others.  If you haven’t noticed, most people are operating on their own agendas, so pleasing people without consciousness can get us lost.

 All the current material about mindfulness and consciousness… What it means is living intentionally, with clear values and purpose.  This shows itself in what we do when no one is watching, when we’re getting no credit or blame for our actions. 

A thoughtful examination of what drives our choices, and a mindful reflection on the impact of those choices, keeps us on a meaningful path. 

With love, Rosanne

Sir Isaac Newton’s Third Law of (E)motion

Newton's cradle

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction… Or simply said from the psychological perspective “You cannot touch without being touched!”

Back in the day my brother, five years older than I, took the physical science road and became a physics teacher, while I took the life science road and became a biology teacher.  It seemed like we were on opposites sides of the road.

As time passed, I moved from my biology platform into psychology, but still teaching in my own ways, both in practice and in college.  Last week, my brother shared Newton’s Third Law…”You cannot touch without being touched,” and I realized the more things appear different, the more they are the same.

When we touch another person’s life, we are touched in return.  Precious are these interactions and not to be taken lightly.  Vital is conscious awareness as to how our “touch” of another rebounds and has effect on ourselves.

I recently completed teaching a trimester in both Intro to Psychology and Human Relations at Berkeley College.  I realized, in our last class, that I had touched my students and they had deeply touched me. Every moment of interaction has its impact, a Universal impact. The laws of science and of interpersonal relations are one.

We humans move through life often semi-conscious and seeing things solely from our point of view. The ability to empathize, embrace the position of another person is our willingness to be touched.  The perception of isolation and individuality is a limitation, just as the idea that the laws of science don’t apply to all things.

So I’m glad I’ve lived long enough to see separation become connection. Thank you to my brother for his wisdom…

With love, Rosanne

Appearances

sign spiritual walk at the wall

There was a time in my life that “if it felt good, it WAS good, and if it felt bad, it WAS bad.”  I guess I was living like a member of another species!

What I’ve learned over time is what feels bad is sometimes good, and what feels good is sometimes bad.  This puts a whole new spin on things.  Now I have to discern what’s actually happening, regardless of how it feels.

This is probably what Pema Chodron, the great Buddhist nun, means when she says “lean into the sharp object.”  It’s counterintuitive to accept pain as part of life.  We spend a lot of energy trying to avoid it through various addictions and distractions. We desperately hope that something outside ourselves will save us from pain.  The truth… Nothing saves us from pain.  Our only choice is to get through it quickly through acceptance, or slowly through obfuscation and suffering.  The latter strategy results in blaming others and Life itself for our pain.

 The grace of acceptance looks like giving up, but it is actually the Path of the Spiritual Warrior.  There are times to fight, but they are much rarer than we think.  If we fight to avoid pain, it will accumulate and will be waiting around the corner in another form.

As I’ve come to this realization I can breathe.  I don’t feel like a cornered animal living on adrenalin.  I don’t think anyone is making a stained glass window in my image any time soon!  I’m just grateful to embrace a truth that lets me rest.

 With love, Rosanne

Energy

Love is The Energy of Life sign with a beach

There are two kinds of energy, potential and manifest.  Before you think this is going to be boring, bear with me!

Potential energy is waiting to be expressed.  If it waits too long it stagnates and if it stagnates in our bodies it creates dis-ease.  (That’s not a typo!)

When energy is freed to move, it is manifested.  It can be manifested through intentions, meaning “If I have an idea and I put it into motion, I’m freeing up energy.”

Money is energy in material form.  It waits to be freed to create opportunities, experiences and sustenance.  Saving is great, but dying with stagnated energy in the bank probably isn’t the best idea.  Bequeathing the fruits of labor for the next generation to use isn’t a bad plan, but using money to do good works is a great idea.

Physical movement frees energy.  Our jobs keep us seated a lot of the time.  Stagnated sitting creates pain in the low back and digestive issues.  Take it from me after years of sitting in the therapist’s chair!

What I experience in Reiki and Reflexology practice is the movement of energy in clients who rise from the table feeling cleared and rebooted.  Therapeutic essential oils do the same clearing.  Even moderate movement frees up energy.

Love is the purest energy and can be expressed interpersonally, in work and in everything we do.  If expressing love is the intention, the actions that come from it will bring positive change.

Move your booty!  Don’t ruminate in your head! Have the intentions of embodying love energy and freeing potential energy every chance you get.   You will bring light into your world…

With love, Rosanne

Humor in Every Moment

Saying 'good morning' to the teacher

My father was an artist and didn’t realize he was funny.  He had the ironic type of humor that let him laugh at life and even at death.

I think I’ve shared the story of his battle with cancer… My friend Mary had paid him a visit and knocked on the door.  He asked “Who is it?”  Mary isn’t to be denied her own sense of humor and said, “It’s Dr. Kvorkian.”  My father answered, “What the hell took you so long!?”

Of all the gifts my father gave me, and there were many, the ability to find humor in the moment is the best and most enduring. As a practicing psychologist (where humor was at a premium) and in the classrooms of life, injecting irony and a sharing of how ridiculous some moments are has been salvation.

When I was in third grade, my classmate Joel Baskin and I were in trouble for laughing at the words to a song as we were singing.  I remember it vividly… “Nymphs and Mermaids gather flowers, underneath the sea…”  Really?  Say the word nymph.  Better yet, look in the mirror as you say it.  Then picture twenty-five third graders singing it.

Joel and I were banished to the hallway to “compose ourselves” only to return and continue cutting up.  We couldn’t help it.  I think Joel became a social worker.  No surprise.

The danger of living a long life is becoming too serious.  No doubt, a long life means lots of loss and “patina,” as I’ve previously shared.  All of it in the rear view mirror, all of it taxing but not without the moments of light-hearted delight that give dimension and lift us up.

Maybe you smiled or chuckled as you read this… I hope so.

With love,

Rosanne