Presence, Not Presents!

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As the holiday season gets into full swing, what is more valuable is “presence,” not presents!

Many of us live like a speedboat skimming across the surface of a lake, unaware that life is unfolding in the depths of that lake.  The demands of life in 2017-2018 accelerate and distract our minds.  We have to slow down and be fully present to derive fulfillment.  The alternative is a list of to-dos that never get to-done!

Wherever you are, be there.  Don’t be a skimmer, a shopper, a material being that, when all is said and done, and the wrapping paper has been torn open and revealed the treasures within, feels duped and disappointed.

Ceremonial occasions are important…the gathering of “tribes” in our lives is part of tradition.  Don’t mistake the ceremonial for the authentic and try to bring as much authentic to the ceremonial as you can.

 Christ’s birth symbolizes a transition in consciousness, another step in the evolution of humankind.  We can celebrate that by being conscious rather than by devolving!

May you invite into your life the blessings of abundance, both material and invisible!

With love,  Rosanne Bostonian

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Actively Listening to Yourself

Active listening

More than ever, we are pulled into the area outside of our skin with high levels of stimulation and distraction.  Bombarded with seductive and interesting energy, the more subtle, internal voices are drowned out.

The complex biological being upon which our heads sit has a voice.  Its messages are drowned out by the “louder” stimuli that bombard our eyes, ears, taste buds and noses.

Our body connection, our sense of material being, connects us to every other form.  The fact that molecules came together to form you and me underscores the fact that the very same molecules form everything else.  To ignore our bodies, our inner experience, or to minimize its importance, is to miss the sense of unity of all forms.

So how do we actively listen?  The brain can only process one message at a time.  We can move rapidly among messages, but each impulse is discrete.  This is why slowing down, breathing and some of the currently touted relaxation methods make sense.  When we slow down, we’re making space to listen to ourselves one internal stimulus at a time. Quieting the mind and its mischief is a big part of hearing the body and making friends with yourself.

What does it feel like to occupy your body?  What is it asking for? What is it trying to communicate? When we’re able to have this empathic connection with ourselves, it opens the door for profoundly different relationships with others.

With love,

Rosanne

R.I.P. – Mickey Mantis

Praying Mantis

If you’ve been following my blogs you know that I was visited by a Praying Mantis that I named “Mickey.” (I’ve always been a Yankee fan and always will be!)  Seeking advice from my local Petco, I created a Mantis Spa, complete with vegetation and live prey.  Alas, Nature rules the day despite a human’s best intentions.
Mickey’s job was to find a safe spot to deposit her egg case.  She did so, producing a “whipped cream” mound that hardened into a protective structure about two days after she arrived.

Several days after producing the egg case, I found her in the vegetation having completed her life cycle.  I’m amazed at how moved I was.  I had been fascinated, watching her small triangular head follow my movements, and sparring with her through the glass of the terrarium. The whole episode was a humbling glimpse into the efficiency of Nature, the endless cycle of Life.

So now there is the egg case.  Mantises produce from 50 to 200 babies… I’m watching to see the culmination of the story, not sure if the egg case is still viable. Mickey received a proper burial… Am I too sentimental? (Smiling)

Probably due to our incredibly advanced brains, we see ourselves as separate from the Natural Order.  It’s no accident that we are refreshed and energized by walks in the woods and strolls on the beach. The rhythms of Nature guide every form of life, including humans.  When the rules are violated, such as genetic alteration of foods, excessive use of antibiotics and use of artificial household products, we suffer.

Quietly, inexorably, the rules of Nature prevail whether we are aware of them or not.  My choice is to be more aware… How about you?

With love,
Rosanne Bostonian

Heroes

Helping hand

When I watch documentaries on 9/11, war and other catastrophic events, I’m moved by that moment when people know that the odds are stacked against them.

I wonder what people are feeling.  Are they paralyzed with fear? Do they rise about their fear and transform into heroes, putting others ahead of themselves?

There are stories we’ve read and seen about heroes.  Most of them are lauded for courage in high octane moments, such as the first responders who run toward danger when others are running away.  I’m in awe of those people.

On the other hand, there are small heroic gestures that can go unnoticed because the events are “ordinary,” and not so high profile.

In my work as a professor, I see students who struggle financially putting themselves through school and maintaining families and work.  Exhausted, they still have time to show kindness and generosity to each other, and sometimes to their professor.  These are heroes.

In my work as a psychologist, I saw people face their demons, their darkest fears, and bring light and awareness to their challenges rather than running away.  These are heroes.

The one common denominator in all heroes is the ability to overcome fear with love.  Heroes are able to move beyond material danger to a sense of connection to a level of truth that becomes visible through the eyes of love.

Here’s to all of the heroes, recognized and anonymous, who carry the banner of human nature to its highest peak and claim that territory for us all.

With love,

Rosanne Bostonian

Feedback

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Most self-awareness books instruct us to value feedback from others.  Those of us who are insecure may take one comment and agonize over it, magnify it into truth.  A better plan is to identify patterns of feedback.  We usually need objective help not to personalize everyone’s random, sometimes self-serving comments.

Patterns are instructive.  They show us a mirror image of what we’ve created as a ‘self’ in the world.  The good news is that we can recreate, reorganize and reevaluate that image if we have courage.  Make no mistake that looking in the mirror of our lives requires courage and maturity.  The tendency is to project blame onto the mirror and find external distortions to justify what we don’t like in that image.  For lack of that skill, we can numb ourselves and refuse to look too closely.

Just because we don’t acknowledge what’s happening doesn’t mean that it isn’t happening.  With those who are avoidant, by the time what’s happening is acknowledged, it’s late in the game and harder to fix.  Better to sensitize our GPS systems to identify “off course” decisions while it’s early in the journey.

Mindful, conscious self-awareness is the ultimate GPS system.  The corrections can be done just as Garmin does them…”Recalculating” in a non-judgmental, compassionate voice.

From the center of our being, may the gentle, forgiving voice of instruction be the patient teacher and may the guiding hand of Universal Wisdom protect us along the way.

Rosanne Bostonian

Thanksgiving…

Happy Thanksgiving

With Thanksgiving upon us, I remember my American History lessons about the Native Americans (referred to as Indians in those days) showing conciliation to the settlers in “the first Thanksgiving.”  What happened after that wasn’t exactly a reciprocation of good will, as white settlers pressed on to the West and left mayhem in the wake of their Conestoga wagons.

Gratitude for blessings is a no-brainer, even though many of us take abundance and ease for granted. Few of us experience gratitude for the hardships in life.  In fact, the previous sentence seems counterintuitive.

I can paraphrase the words of the great Brene Brown and say that nothing I’ve accomplished in life was the result of pleasure and ease.  In fact, the most challenging episodes contributed most to the strengthening of my character.  I will confess that as these events were unfolding, I wasn’t jumping for joy… nor would I have picked them off a menu and put them on my “to-do list.”

Yet Life comes to us with opportunities hidden in some pretty dire costumes.  Once you’ve been through enough of these scenarios, you “disrobe” the monsters quickly and look for the opportunity hiding beneath the disguise.

I’m grateful that I know this because it keeps me from feeling like a victim.  Now that you have read this, look deeper into the “misfortunes” in your life and see what may be revealed.  Assume that Life is expressing Itself through circumstances and be still in Its presence.

Finally, be grateful that a collection of molecules gathered to be you, a conscious, reflective you, capable of the full range of experiences…all designed to grow awareness and gratitude.

Joyful Thanksgiving!  Rosanne Bostonian

 

8 Reasons to Love Clove

8 reasons to love clove

Here’s a great post on clove from YoungLiving

Imagine this: You’re inside, it’s dark out, the fire is on, you have a cup of hot chocolate in your hand, a fuzzy blanket on your lap, and your Diffuser is diffusing a magical and cozy aroma with Clove essential oil. Sounds like a great way to unwind from your day, doesn’t it?

With its spicy, warm scent, Clove essential oil is the perfect companion for celebratory moments at holiday gatherings, and we want to help you enjoy this comforting aroma all season long. Read on for tips on how to make your holidays even more inviting and meaningful, including insightful facts and practical uses. With its unique scent, Clove essential oil has the power to set the perfect tone for any fall or winter day. It will instantly put you in the holiday spirit, ready to enjoy some hot apple cider

  1. The clove flower bud and plant stem are steam distilled to produce Clove essential oil.

2. Clove is a potent essential oil and is used often for topical application such as in massage oils and personal care products. We recommend adding a drop or two to your hand lotion to keep your skin moisturized during the drier winter months.

3. Clove essential oil’s inviting aroma pairs amazingly with other oils such as Cinnamon Bark, Grapefruit, Orange, and Nutmeg.

4. It’s an important ingredient in Young Living’s Thieves® and ImmuPower™.

5. On days when your toes are cold and you can’t seem to shake the chill, draw up a warm bath and add a few drops of Clove for its soothing aroma.

6. Add 3–4 drops to water in a glass spray bottle and use it for a homemade air or linen freshener to ready your bedrooms for holiday guests.

7. Combine it with V-6™ Vegetable Oil Complex and rub it into your neck and back for a rejuvenating massage and uplifting aroma.

8. Combine 2 drops of Clove with 6 drops of Orange and 4 drops of Cinnamon Bark in your diffuser* for a quiet night full of relaxation and gratitude.

Now you are ready to show off during the holiday season with your Clove expertise!
*Check your diffuser’s oil drop count recommendations and change as needed.