Sir Isaac Newton’s Third Law of (E)motion

Newton's cradle

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction… Or simply said from the psychological perspective “You cannot touch without being touched!”

Back in the day my brother, five years older than I, took the physical science road and became a physics teacher, while I took the life science road and became a biology teacher.  It seemed like we were on opposites sides of the road.

As time passed, I moved from my biology platform into psychology, but still teaching in my own ways, both in practice and in college.  Last week, my brother shared Newton’s Third Law…”You cannot touch without being touched,” and I realized the more things appear different, the more they are the same.

When we touch another person’s life, we are touched in return.  Precious are these interactions and not to be taken lightly.  Vital is conscious awareness as to how our “touch” of another rebounds and has effect on ourselves.

I recently completed teaching a trimester in both Intro to Psychology and Human Relations at Berkeley College.  I realized, in our last class, that I had touched my students and they had deeply touched me. Every moment of interaction has its impact, a Universal impact. The laws of science and of interpersonal relations are one.

We humans move through life often semi-conscious and seeing things solely from our point of view. The ability to empathize, embrace the position of another person is our willingness to be touched.  The perception of isolation and individuality is a limitation, just as the idea that the laws of science don’t apply to all things.

So I’m glad I’ve lived long enough to see separation become connection. Thank you to my brother for his wisdom…

With love, Rosanne

Appearances

sign spiritual walk at the wall

There was a time in my life that “if it felt good, it WAS good, and if it felt bad, it WAS bad.”  I guess I was living like a member of another species!

What I’ve learned over time is what feels bad is sometimes good, and what feels good is sometimes bad.  This puts a whole new spin on things.  Now I have to discern what’s actually happening, regardless of how it feels.

This is probably what Pema Chodron, the great Buddhist nun, means when she says “lean into the sharp object.”  It’s counterintuitive to accept pain as part of life.  We spend a lot of energy trying to avoid it through various addictions and distractions. We desperately hope that something outside ourselves will save us from pain.  The truth… Nothing saves us from pain.  Our only choice is to get through it quickly through acceptance, or slowly through obfuscation and suffering.  The latter strategy results in blaming others and Life itself for our pain.

 The grace of acceptance looks like giving up, but it is actually the Path of the Spiritual Warrior.  There are times to fight, but they are much rarer than we think.  If we fight to avoid pain, it will accumulate and will be waiting around the corner in another form.

As I’ve come to this realization I can breathe.  I don’t feel like a cornered animal living on adrenalin.  I don’t think anyone is making a stained glass window in my image any time soon!  I’m just grateful to embrace a truth that lets me rest.

 With love, Rosanne

Energy

Love is The Energy of Life sign with a beach

There are two kinds of energy, potential and manifest.  Before you think this is going to be boring, bear with me!

Potential energy is waiting to be expressed.  If it waits too long it stagnates and if it stagnates in our bodies it creates dis-ease.  (That’s not a typo!)

When energy is freed to move, it is manifested.  It can be manifested through intentions, meaning “If I have an idea and I put it into motion, I’m freeing up energy.”

Money is energy in material form.  It waits to be freed to create opportunities, experiences and sustenance.  Saving is great, but dying with stagnated energy in the bank probably isn’t the best idea.  Bequeathing the fruits of labor for the next generation to use isn’t a bad plan, but using money to do good works is a great idea.

Physical movement frees energy.  Our jobs keep us seated a lot of the time.  Stagnated sitting creates pain in the low back and digestive issues.  Take it from me after years of sitting in the therapist’s chair!

What I experience in Reiki and Reflexology practice is the movement of energy in clients who rise from the table feeling cleared and rebooted.  Therapeutic essential oils do the same clearing.  Even moderate movement frees up energy.

Love is the purest energy and can be expressed interpersonally, in work and in everything we do.  If expressing love is the intention, the actions that come from it will bring positive change.

Move your booty!  Don’t ruminate in your head! Have the intentions of embodying love energy and freeing potential energy every chance you get.   You will bring light into your world…

With love, Rosanne

Humor in Every Moment

Saying 'good morning' to the teacher

My father was an artist and didn’t realize he was funny.  He had the ironic type of humor that let him laugh at life and even at death.

I think I’ve shared the story of his battle with cancer… My friend Mary had paid him a visit and knocked on the door.  He asked “Who is it?”  Mary isn’t to be denied her own sense of humor and said, “It’s Dr. Kvorkian.”  My father answered, “What the hell took you so long!?”

Of all the gifts my father gave me, and there were many, the ability to find humor in the moment is the best and most enduring. As a practicing psychologist (where humor was at a premium) and in the classrooms of life, injecting irony and a sharing of how ridiculous some moments are has been salvation.

When I was in third grade, my classmate Joel Baskin and I were in trouble for laughing at the words to a song as we were singing.  I remember it vividly… “Nymphs and Mermaids gather flowers, underneath the sea…”  Really?  Say the word nymph.  Better yet, look in the mirror as you say it.  Then picture twenty-five third graders singing it.

Joel and I were banished to the hallway to “compose ourselves” only to return and continue cutting up.  We couldn’t help it.  I think Joel became a social worker.  No surprise.

The danger of living a long life is becoming too serious.  No doubt, a long life means lots of loss and “patina,” as I’ve previously shared.  All of it in the rear view mirror, all of it taxing but not without the moments of light-hearted delight that give dimension and lift us up.

Maybe you smiled or chuckled as you read this… I hope so.

With love,

Rosanne