Dental Floss and Q-Tips



By now you know that I believe strange questions need to be answered, and I’m officially designated to voice the quandaries.  For instance, “Why is bird poop two-toned?”  This was researched and answered by one of my students and shared in a previous blog.

Here is my next dilemma: “How do dental floss gadgets and Q-Tips end up in a parking lot?”

I applaud anyone who is so manic about flossing their teeth that they choose to floss on the run in a parking lot.  I don’t applaud throwing the dental floss gadget for others to ponder when they’re done.

As for Q-Tips, this is more of a concern.  Flossing one’s teeth is understandable (if uncouth) in a restaurant parking lot, but for the life of me I can’t picture Q-Tipping one’s ears and casting the offending instrument to the pavement.  Ear hygiene on the run is a hard optic.

I’ve seen the results but not the acts, so I’m left to attribute these actions as regrettable examples of unconsciousness and preoccupation with one’s needs at others’ expense.

As I wrote that, what popped up was “These should be the only regrettable examples of unconsciousness and preoccupation with one’s need at others’ expense!” Unfortunately…not so.

With love,

Rosanne Bostonian


Bird Poop

Flock of birds

I know that’s an unusual title for a blog, so bear with me!

There are mysteries in life that flash through our minds and never rise to the level of needing an answer.  They remain mysteries.  One of my decades long mysteries is “Why is bird poop two-toned?”

I’ve never been around a computer when the question came up, but the other day I thought of the question as I was preparing to teach a class.  Immediately, one of my students was on Google and here’s the story:

Birds don’t urinate.  (Go figure!)  The white part of their waste is uric acid.  The dark part is, well…you know.  So, they efficiently do #1 and #2 at the same time.

If you’ve just had your car washed, I think it becomes a “bird magnet.”  That’s another mystery.

Another student shared that it’s good that birds don’t urinate or we’d have to walk around with umbrellas.  Ah, the creative mind of youth.

One more mystery unveiled… and so many more to go!

With love,

Rosanne Bostonian




There is never a conflict with person or condition, but rather a false concept mentally entertained about person, thing, circumstance, or condition.  Therefore, make the correction within yourself, rather than attempting to change anyone or anything in the without.”

Joel S. Goldsmith, Infinite Way, Wisdoms

Western thinking embraces the notion that being “right,” is winning.  He/She who is right wins.  He/She who is wrong loses.  We all want to win…sometimes at great cost.

In my psychology career, I would ask couples “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be married!?”  Most would say “both!”  And furthermore, if their partner would just acknowledge their rightness, there would be no conflict.

Joel Goldsmith’s teaches emphasize the view that our lives are simply out-picturings of our own consciousness and the conflicts we envision are unresolved snags within us.  What I believe strongly is that the first stop when discord appears is within one’s own inner contemplative place.  To dive into the outer projection and try to fix it is like running up to the screen in the moving theater and trying to change parts of the movie you don’t like!

If conflict appears, go within.  Only speak from a place of peace where you have prepared a welcoming place of learning.  Conflict is an “activating event.”  It requires space to create full presence.  If we entertain that everything that appears, even conflict, is an opportunity to self-reflect and allow the lessons of the moment to appear, maybe we would address what appears as conflict with gratitude and ease rather than annoyance and impatience.

By now you may be thinking of situations in which this approach would never work!  Places where you were absolutely right… What did you learn from taking the position of being the one who is right?  I would venture to say, probably not too much if the issue wasn’t evaluated as a learning opportunity first.

With love, Rosanne Bostonian




I hope my posts don’t feel like T.M.I…. I hope they’re J.E.I.  (Just Enough Information.)

In the past, I’ve sarcastically stated that everybody part should have a -book, not just the Face.  There are certain body parts that might actually have -books heretofore unnamed. People evidently spend a lot of time online looking at the other body parts, although they might not be formally named -books.

Email wasn’t fast enough for us, so we now have texting.  Texting on my tiny iPhone gives me a headache.  I have very small fingers, but still not small enough to avoid over-reaching and creating bizarre errors.  The auto-correct can also create some embarrassing communications.  I find the “m” particularly troubling, do you?  Instead of hitting “m” I hit the backspace resulting in erasing the “m” and having to rework the message.  “Oy vey,” as our Jewish friends say. 

If you forget to turn off your iPhone in a theater or in a class, you suddenly become e-popular,  the focus of every person who needs to e-communicate.  My iPhone finds itself the most obscure places to hide when I’m trying to find it to turn it off.  I think it’s laughing at me.

I can understand why people have personal assistants.  Those are people that can turn T.M.I. into J.E.I.  I am finding this process another job on top of those I already have.  Yet when there is nothing in my In Box, it feels like a tangible sign of my irrelevancy.  T.M.I., annoyance.  N.I., irrelevancy.   I hope I can hit the golden mean. 

With love and hopes that this is J.E.I.,   Rosanne Bostonian

Seeing Isn’t Believing

Eyes of Maitreya Buddha - third eye


People are divided into two groups:  those who must see it to believe it, and those who believe it before they see it and create it.  (Reread that!)

All the amazing inventions in history came from the “great invisible” through someone’s belief in an invisible idea.  Since we’re all not inventors on the grand scale, we can still live creatively by taking that principle and holding it as motivation.

This could be the vision of relationships, of a professional life, of daily life as a canvas upon which to paint a novel and mindful creation.

What interferes with this?  The “obvious” intrudes upon creativity.  There are material limitations that come through our senses and impair our ability to be creative.  Negative thinking, poor self-esteem, discouraging people, and setbacks are all culprits that get in the way of living with an open heart.  Living creatively means overcoming those obstacles with faith.

If those previously discouraging elements can be cues to look further within and overcome fear with grace and faith. Instead of waiting to see proof with our senses, curiosity and inner activity will provide our motivation.

The act of creativity isn’t reserved for artists, musicians and inventors.  The “third eye,” situated in the middle of the forehead in middle eastern faiths, represents wisdom beyond the senses.  We could also describe that as not needing to see it to believe it.

With love, Rosanne Bostonian

Desire and the Chase

Relaxing on the porchDoesn’t it seem that the more we chase the things we want in Life, the more elusive they seem to be?

In Buddhist lore, desire and greed are interchangeable concepts, both being seen as “poisons.” The notion of chasing something we desire is the equivalent of ingratitude for what “is,” and can hook us into an insatiable quest for more, more and (yes) more.

Our culture worships those who make it big financially and materially.  As we see with various famous and powerful people in our country, those who have accumulated material abundance believe themselves to also possess virtue and wisdom.  This is often far from reality.  The endless chase for more makes us vulnerable to the addictions created by desire and greed.

I guess “sufficiency,” or having enough, doesn’t fuel capitalism.  But insufficiency and a sense of inadequacy, definitely create stress, anxiety, depression and a host of other maladies that allow the pharmaceutical industry to thrive.

The one impoverishment that may help us all is less and less desire and slowing down the chase!

With love, Rosanne Bostonian

Let Your Heart Break

Broken HeartWhat a curious title, considering that we humans use so much energy trying to avoid heartbreak and its miseries.   Why should accepting heartbreak be a goal?

When the heart breaks it’s a sign that we were open, we tried, we were fully present.  When the heart breaks we rolled the dice and bet on Love.  And when the heart breaks the Jury of Angels celebrates our faith, even though the desired outcome wasn’t reached.

There’s a saying, “The heart breaks to open wider.”  I’ll try to explain:

We have a choice to bet on Love or live from fear.  To choose love, especially after heartbreak, it celebrates the courage to remain open, regardless of our pain.  To love again we’ve affirmed Love as our source of energy, and we’ve conquered fear.

How did I do?

If we think that we can avoid pain and still remain open enough to love, we’re sadly mistaken.  Openness includes ALL emotions.  There’s no filter that only lets the happy moments in and keeps the sad ones out.  All addiction is based on the distortion that we can pick and choose what we experience, only letting pleasantries in.

I’m interested in what you think about this.  I’m listening!

With THAT love, Rosanne Bostonian